Ovarian Cancer Awareness: Welcome Our Guest

In honor of Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month (September), I'm delighted to have special guest, Tara D., visiting with us and sharing her life experience, as well as her battle with ovarian cancer. Please welcome her and read on.

Hi Tara! Thanks for visiting The Balanced Writer in honor of Ovarian Cancer Awareness month. Would you tell everyone a little about yourself--besides the fact that you’re a Nashville native, cartographer, a certified Pharmacy technician, and a mother of one talented, handsome son...

What is a favorite childhood memory?

My favorite childhood memory is riding down a long honeysuckle-lined road to the boat dock where we kept our boat, with the windows down, drinking in the heavy smell of honeysuckle.

What have you always been good at--talents-- that you appreciate now?

I was always a good reader as a kid, and I'm still an avid reader today.

What kind of things do you remember struggling with as you grew up? Did it make you a stronger person?

I struggled with shyness as a child, and I had to really make an effort to overcome that as I grew up. It did make me stronger, because I had to really fight the urge to try to disappear into the background and make an effort to talk to people. I felt like I was faking it. But that's what they say, "Fake it 'til you make it."

I can't ever remember or even imagine you being shy. You faked it well. Your outgoing personality, I happen to know, is one thing that draws people to you. So when were you first diagnosed with ovarian cancer?

I was diagnosed on Dec 1, 2008.

 What were your first thoughts when you were diagnosed with the disease?

The funny thing is my first thought was, "I'm going to die," then I wondered how sick people were supposed to act. I just decided to be myself and just go with the flow.

How have your friends and family shown their support?

My friends and family have been very supportive. Especially my sister, Brandy. She drives me to most of my appointments and procedures, and I have several friends and family who have visited me in the hospital when I've been an in-patient.

What kind of extra help or support have you needed?

Sometimes I just need a shoulder to cry on or someone to complain to, and my special friends and my family are invaluable on those days.

I'm so glad you have people in your circle that are there for you. Have you had any empowering moments during this journey?

Maybe one long, almost three year moment: I feel powerful that I've managed to fight this disease for as long as I have and still feel okay most of the time. I also felt pretty powerful last summer when I passed a motorcycle riding course.

Okay, passing a motorcycle riding course is like the epitome of coolness. And to do this with an illness. Wow. How are you feeling these days?

I feel well most of the time. There are times when I feel pain from fluid buildup and the tumors, but I have pain medication for those times.

What are some things you enjoy doing right now?

I'm part of a scooter riding group. Not really a club but a great group of motor scooter enthusiasts. We meet a few times a month and take rides together. I try to ride when I'm feeling well. 

What's one new thing you would like to learn or try?

I'm wanting to learn how to ride a scooter with a manual transmission so I can ride the new Genuine Stella scooter. They're pretty sweet, but I can't afford one.

Hmmm. Sounds like a case for Dream Foundation! I hope you get the chance to learn and try that. Now, on a more personal note, what kind of comfort or expressions do you appreciate hearing from others? What do you not like?

I like when people express that they are thinking of me and/or praying for me. I know people want to be able to help but many can't so keeping me in their thoughts is just fine. I don't really like when people say, "I know just how you feel," because they probably really don't.

Good tips for friends and caregivers to remember. Can you share some of the early symptoms of ovarian cancer?

Unfortunately the early symptoms of OC can be easily dismissed by many women as signs of aging, as they were by me. Lower back pain, heavy periods, bloating, heartburn. The best way to catch it early is with a blood test that is not part of a routine gynecological checkup.

That is precious information. I'd always assumed when I had my yearly checkup that was being taken care of. What else does everyone need to know to prevent and fight this disease?

Know your body. If something doesn't feel right see your doctor. Know if ovarian or any cancer runs in your family. But even with all this, it is hard to catch OC early. 

So it's something women need to stay informed and aware of -- all the time. Would you like to share something you've learned about the world or yourself through battling cancer?

I've learned that my family and self are stronger than I ever realized, and I've learned that people want to help. If you can, let them help. You are giving them a blessing, as well as them blessing you, by letting people help. That's been hard for me as I have always been very independent.

I'm not going to say "I know" here, because I don't want to get in trouble. *GRIN* Your independence is another quality that I have always admired about you. 

Okay, time for some quickie "Likes":

What's your favorite snack? Peanut butter crackers, cookies

Favorite vacation spot? Fort Morgan Beach, Ala.

Movie? The Princess Bride

Toothpaste? AIM

Dream Car: Smart Car

If you won a millions dollars you would: Buy a Smart car and a Kia Soul because they are both so cute. Buy my mom and my kid a new car.

What is your favorite thing about YOU? I'm smart, funny, and hardly shy anymore...

Thanks, Tara, for visiting with me and sharing information about OC. You're a brilliant, strong woman, and as someone who has always looked up to you, I'm honored to be able to share your story. Have a Happy Birthday this month, and best of luck and and prayers to you as you continue this fight.

~Danielle Thorne

FIND OUT MORE ABOUT OVARIAN CANCER:

http://www.ovariancancer.org/

http://www.cancer.org/Cancer/OvarianCancer/index

Pear Honey Adventures

It's finally autumn -- football, colored leaves, pumpkins, and canning. Canning, as in sealing up our fresh harvests and putting them away for winter. This summer my other half stocked us up on blueberries, which went right into storage bags in the freezer. There's not a whole lot of room in there for other goodies.

I have to thank my friend, Carissa, for telling me about the sweet, syrupy and jam-like concoction one gets from simmering sugar, pears and pineapple together. It sounded pretty unique, and best of all, pear honey can be canned and stored for future use.

Canning is something I've never tried on my own. Years ago I canned fresh apple pie filling with a friend, but I never had the guts to start boiling glass jars and fruit and vegetables on my own. This past week, I decided to give it a go.

As you can see from the above photo, I managed to put up several jars of golden goodness in this delicious recipe. To date, I've only had it with french toast, but it tasted marvelous. I also understand it goes well on ice cream, waffles and the like. Chilled in the fridge, my container became quite jellied, so I think it would work on peanut butter sandwich, too. 

Below is the recipe for pear honey. Time is precious, and this project didn't take up too much of it; only about two hours from start to finish. So if you'd like to try something new in your busy life, give this idea a go.

‎Pear Honey

4 lbs of pears, peeled and chopped

1 large can of crushed pineapple

5 lbs of sugar

Bring to a slow boil on medium heat and then stir until syrupy at least twenty minutes. The pears will mostly dissolve with the exception of a few chunks, and the rest will be dark like honey. Can and process according to your canner's instructions. For the Georgia area, it was ten minutes in a water bath. Once canned, it's a beautiful golden yellow.

Good Luck!

~Danielle Thorne

This month is National Ovarian Cancer Awareness month. Be on the lookout for the teal ribbon or display one of your own!